Question
Have you ever noticed....?
That when you want something really bad, you usually dont get it, but when you dont want it anymore it comes to you so easily? Why do you think this happens?
Answer
I can give a psychological answer for this Have your heard about the Bruce Lees quote on enter the Dragon brbrquotIts like a finger pointing a way to the moon, dont concentrare on the finger otherwise youll lose all its heavenly gloryquotbrbrLike I spoke about primary process distortion, when you tend to think too much, your thinking and concentration is very very highly directional and focused that all your energy is spent on wanting it that you tend to miss out on the other cues.brbrSay for example, I want to make a good impression in a speech contest,so I tend to think about making a good impression and work my way on the words that help me in doing that.If Im so concerned about making a good impression, what happens is my thinking gets so focused that my thoughts are all about making a good impression and I dont get the quotrightquot words in my speech simply because my very concern is on good impression and since my focus is on that, my awareness is limited to just that and Im not aware of the presence of better words that are there.brbrA better example to illustrate this I have a problem, I work for an idea, I try to think about various solutions, none of them are quotprefectquot,I get tired ,leave it and go to sleep.When I get up from my sleep,I just try to casually think about something and suddenly out of nowhere I get the solution for the very problem!!!!brbrI have said this, your subconscious minds works for a solution even when youre not actually thinking .What actually happened here was you might have got the solution when you actually working for the problem but since your mind is so concentrated and focused on getting the solution you missed out the solution itself!!!!!!brbrThats why its very important to stay relaxed!!!!brbrThe same thing happens on the opposite scenario, when you dont want it anymore, it comes easily because your awareness is very high in that aspect,so you tend to notice it more often than others.Its very obvious that you feel that it happens to you more than others.You dont want bad luck to happen to you but because youre very sensitive ,you tend to notice everything as a result of bad luck, your interpretations are more concentrated in that aspectbrbrThere is a zen riddle backing it When you seek it you cannot find it!!!!
